I told you that my blog would be an all encompassing space for me to share my world (ventilate at times). Well, here is my first entry on dating. Gee willikers, have men forgotten how to get to know a woman, court, date, or what-ever title you want to put on it?
Here's some background, I began working at an after-school program in September of 2011. Around December it is told to me by one of my co-worker that one of the kid's parents "thinks I'm hot." I have no clue who this guy is; I can't remember ever seeing or speaking to him (Clue #1). His kids are in 4th and 5th grade, I teach a 2nd grade class, so needless to say, no wonder I don't know who he is. To be fair to bug-a-boo, by Day 6 you will have some indication on how he earned his title, I have no clue what he is thinking or the motivations for his actions. I can only offer insight on my feelings, actions, and my opinion of him and his actions. Now, on with the story that begins May 11, 2012 (Yes, it took him that long to make himself known. Clue #2):
Day 1 - Man gives his business card to my co-worker with the message, "Please tell Ms. Valcine that I'd like to take her to coffee or something when she has the time." Woman is busy working and my co-worker gives the business card to me during a lull in the activity and relays the message. "Ok," I say, "Could you put it in my purse please, I don't have any pockets."
Day 3 - I call him. Upon getting reaching his voice mail I leave the following message, "Hey ____ (in an attempt to be nice, I won't say his name. He should be grateful, I could put him on blast right now!). I'd love to go to coffee with you but I'd prefer to wait until after school lets out. Give me a call then and we'll set something up. Talk to you later.
Later that same day - He calls and leaves me a message complimenting me on the play the kids put on the week before and my work with the after school program. Says he can't wait to take me to coffee, lunch, dinner, or whatever I prefer.
Day 4 - I text him, "Got your message. Thanks for the compliments. I look forward to it." He responds, "They're well deserved." So far so good, if you could call it that.
Day 5 - I receive a text message that says, "Hi Valcine. I know you wanted to wait until after the school year lets out but I have a work dinner to attend and I would really like you to be my date. _____ and ______ (his children) won't know anything about it." I respond, "Thanks for the offer and consideration but my job has a policy against dating parents at your school site and being a woman of integrity, I would prefer not to violate their policies." He responds, "I can respect that." I'm thinking, "Do you always have this much trouble accepting 'No'? I mean, we're only talking a few weeks here. You've waited this long to finally speak up."
Day 6 - My class of 2nd graders and my co-worker with her class of Kinder and 1st graders are in the library doing an art activity. Who comes, and opens the door, and waits for me to look up? You guessed it. (Strike 1! I'm thinking, "The whole point of waiting until the end of the school year is because of my job and their policies. I do remember conveying that to you rather clearly.")
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