How to Lose a Girl in 10 Days! Part II

Day 7 - I receive a text around 5:30 PM, "So, what do you like to do when you're not wrangling kids at the after-school program?" I send the response as I'm walking to my car at 6:15 PM (he knows where I work which means he knows I don't get off before 6 which is our program's closing time, "I'm driving. Call me." He calls me and we have a 20 minute discussion where we begin getting to know one another. When he asks me what I am doing tomorrow, I tell him about my second job where I work on Saturdays and tell him that I am meeting with a couple of girlfriends for drinks, one of which is going to be sharing some good news about her business. I arrive home and we get off the phone. He's going to do laundry and I'm going to do homework. I get a text around 8:30 PM, "Man, this laundry never ends. Well, good night baby". What?!? We ain't there yet!!! I send him a slanty face :-/ hoping he'll get the point that he's out of bounds. I thought he did because he didn't respond. Boy was I wrong!!!


Day 8 - I head to meet my girlfriends at 4:30 PM and guess who's texting me... You guessed it. Blowing my phone up! I receive one that says, "What time are you meeting your friends?" I respond, "I'm trying to have drinks now." Does he get the point? No! He texts back, "Send me a picture of you with your friends." I am mad at this point and I choose to ignore him in an effort to keep Shaquita (my alter ego) from coming out and introducing herself. For the third time today, he misses the point and sends me another text message, "Hellooooo". Uh uh... no he didn't (Shaquita is climbing out my purse)! About an hour later when I arrive home after having a wonderful, yet rudely intruded on time with my girlies, I send him this message, "Listen ______, I'm gonna say this as nicely as I possibly can, 'You need to kick back!' No, I will not send you a picture of me with my friends. I'm chillin' so BACK UP!" He sends back, "WOW. I just wanted to see you having a good time with your friends." I am now convinced that he his completely oblivious and I will need to be much more blunt with him. This is why some guys get cussed out! But I didn't go there. He wasn't worth the effort.


Day 9 - I'm formulating how I'm gonna put him in his place. During the conversation on Day 7, _____ was informed about the existence of my alter ego Shaquita. Well, he let her out the purse on Day 8. I've successfully wrangled her back inside but the reigns are loose, to say the least.


Day 10 - I text, "That was Shaquita being nice to you." He replies, "She's a lovely woman." Time for the hammer to come down, "_______, I've decided not to go on a date with you after all. Thank you for your interest, it was flattering." He calls my phone, which I don't answer because this is not a discussion, I am not ending a relationship. This is over well before it even started. He texts me, "How can you say that after the great conversation we had the other day." I choose to be 100% honest to give him the opportunity to learn from his mistakes as he moves forward... with someone else, not me. I text, "Our personalities are not compatible. You appear to be quite pushy and quite frankly you irritated me." He's dense, I determine as I receive a long message telling me that he is sorry he irritated me and that he is the most easy going guy. If I were to ask his friends about him they would say he's a great guy... I'm done! I let him have it in a final response, "This is not a debate. I'm done discussing it. Good bye." He sends back "Wow!" I ignore him.


I don't give a crap who gives him a glowing recommendation! If you have irritated me and we haven't even gone on our first date, then it's done. I have learned to listen to my gut and my instincts. And the way he handled my telling him that I've changed my mind about dating him tells me that I was right. Good riddance!